“I wanna f*ck you like an animal…” ~Nine Inch Nails

Hey there lover butt, so nice to see you again

Have you ever written a love letter to your man?  More specifically…laid out an entire fantasy for him in print?

It’s pretty sweet to get as a man.  It really communicates the right things…

…openness and excitement…

…as sassy and adventurous attitude…

…and how hot you REALLY are deep inside.

With that being said – I wanted to share with you something that a friend of mine sent my way.

And yes, it’s a fantasy she had YEARS ago that she saved to this very day.  Down and dirty.

Hopefully, this will give you some inspiration – and there’s a little surprise at the end waiting for ya

Take a look…

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We’re always in a cozy little cabin, it’s the beginning of autumn, and it is always imperative that there is a large, maplewood dresser across from the queen size bed, fully equipped with an immaculately preserved antique mirror.

We’ve exchanged our comfortable conversation, albeit not necessarily casual, settled into friendly mental and emotional proximity, drank enough spirits to heighten the awareness of our own, and pretended thoroughly to ignore the magnitude of the bow we had begun to untie on the belated gift that would become this evening.

But it has become, and I’m wearing that white dress you enjoy so much, modest to the knee, plunging and strained at the inproprietous neckline and that is exactly where your lazy eyes have fallen this evening as you sit against the headboard of the bed, fully clothed minus the obstruction of your shoes and socks, and I lie against you, just as lackadaisical in my demeanor, ego satisfied generously as I watch your gaze run down my neck, into the fullness of my breasts this evening.

I am fond of the location of the dresser, just opposite of the bed, as I have always had an affinity for watching and being watched. And for the time being, I am content to relish the tingle of your breath on the nape of my neck, your hands just so on my arms, the rise of your brow as my hips rotate in an attempt to slowly, methodically separate my smooth and shapely legs to begin a very deliberately and intimately planned night of passion.

I can’t tell, but I think you’re relieved that I have taken the role of ring leader this eve and I’m certain you are content to follow wherever it is–however it is–we are traveling together.

Just in case there is any question remaining as to whether my current position on the bed is just a state of comfort or a play to kick start and kindle a new brand of lust I delicately, almost daintily, pull the hem of my dress up my thigh to fully expose a white lace triangle of cloth, held into precise position by a slim highway of satin string. I know you see what I see and hope you stare as my fantasies are coming into play: the bulge of arousal, thin and sensual cloth pulled tightly against feminine hips and the plump outline of flesh that has already begun to tingle without a touch.

“Just touch me, kiss my neck, watch me…for a while. Enjoy me for a while,” I whisper to your reflection in the mirror as my hand slips down to sample the sensitive and slippery skin underneath.

You’re aware of the sensitivity of my neck, how I like being bitten there and have no qualms about being marked by you, as I have discarded any notions of belonging to any other man. I love that you know those spots, how to touch them, how to place your mouth against me and the way you use your hands without requiring they contact forbidden places.

I want to speed up my pace. I’m excited, I’m pulsating, and I can feel your arousal behind me. You’re holding my left hand tight and your right hand is moving my hair, stroking me. The way your eyes move from the green of mine in our living portrait in the dresser, down my body, up again…traveling and returning, lest you forget somehow…

I know you can smell me, feel my heat. I release your hand from mine and move down to where my fingers are probing and massaging hungry flesh and pull the crotch of my panties aside to reveal my nakedness to you…..

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Notice something?

ITS NOT DONE!

No.  She specifically never finished it for her own reasons, and one of those reasons is having someone write the rest of the tune out for her.

So what do you say?

I propose a contest

Reply to this blog post with your OWN ending to this fantasy and I’ll have my panel of judges look it over and pick the best one.

And, the BEST one gets a FREE copy of my ebook “Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad” by this Friday, Feb 12th.  That way you can use some of the instantly valuable nuggets of juicy dirty talk delight on your man this weekend.

What do ya say?  I can’t wait to see what you come up with ;-P

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

Howdy,

You know, things between a man and a woman can be really intense sometimes.  I would know, my relationships have been so intense that I couldn’t possibly imagine it any other way.

There’s good intensity, and bad intensity.  Both can shock your emotions with massive spikes of feelings that leave a lasting impression on you and your partner.

Good intensity is the best, of course.  It’s the most positive.  It’s when someone takes it upon themselves to step-up and be PRO ACTIVE to cause a major blast of positive intensity in their sex life.

Meet Gina, an 18 year old girl with more sexual motivation than I’ve ever seen in my life.  And, for all the right reasons.

Gina came to me asking for help to master the last part of her sexual self conquest – dirty talk.  She’s with the same man who she gave her virginity to and wanted to plan something “special” for her experience with him.

Her story was so compelling that I just had to get involved.  The following is the first part of our conversation:

Hey it’s Gina,

You told me to take five minutes to answer why I took the time out, and want to know how to “talk dirty” to my boyfriend. And well I have to admit that the first answer was so I can please him fully, but then I was wondering why I wanted to do that.

I got another answer. I think that in knowing I am pleasing him I would feel both empowered and sexy. The thought that I can blow him out of his mind is so tempting and amazing and I would love to know how. I want him to when he’s surrounded by pretty girls, look at them knowing none of them can please him the way I can.

Right now he’s 19 and in college and I’m just starting college next year, I’m 18. We’ve been together for 10months now  and have been through our share of ups and downs. I plan on staying with him for a while and I could honestly see myself spending the rest of my life with him. He says he’s wants to marry me and although i am far from having marriage even cross my mind, I do want to stay with him & pleasing him in bed is important to me. He was my first (I was a virgin when we got together) so naturally it took a while for me to feel confident and in control while we had sex.

Even still, I have a lot to learn. I think I have fully mastered a lot of what your books have taught me. I learned how to tease him and give him chills. I learned how to give a good lap dance and have him beg for me. I’ve even mastered oral sex. It’s the “dirty talk” that I have to master next. I feel that it would really take things to the next level.

I am Colombian and he is American. He gets a kick when I speak to him in spanish during sex. He also loves when I call him “daddy” or “papi” during sex. I feel like I’m just steps away from mastering “dirty talk”, but I  don’t know the words to use. PLLEEASSE HELP!

If you could help me by coming up with some phrases or words or suggestions it would be great!

Gina

My Reply:

Dear Gina,

I LOVE your enthusiasm and drive here.  It’s highly honorable and exactly the right type of attitude it takes to fully master your sexual being.

I wanted to take a moment and point out a couple things that I got from your email that have really peaked my interest.  These are things that, if communicated through your dirty dialogue, will hit him hard at his masculine core:

I think that in knowing I am pleasing him I would feel both empowered and sexy.

This mindset is right on the money.  This is about YOU, not just him and his needs.  Fully embrace yourself in this selfish power and use it to fuel you to increase the levels of intensity you experience every time you’re with him.  But, in doing so, you need to communicate that to him.  Here’s an example:

“Nothing makes me feel sexier than satisfying you every desire Papi.  I’m here to please you.”

Use your own variation.  The point is your essentially saying that pleasing him brings you great pleasure and that by allowing you to please him, he is satisfying you deeply.  In doing so you are putting him in a position of great power of his own.

(Note – This is also why he likes being called “Papi” because it indicates a position of power and authority over you)

I was a virgin when we got together

This is very important and has waaaaay more power in it that than you could possible understand at 18 years old.  This is your first and only man, which is your only reference experience to sex and essentially, all you know.  Being your first, there is a very pure connection in which your real innocence has been inadvertently crossed.  It’s a connection that everyone has with their “first” that stays only with that person.

In other words, your level of devotion trumps that of the vast majority of other women alive today.

Use this to your advantage.  Actually, I think you have already by wanting to “master” everything sexual.  This is the type of nitro-fuel that is very unique to your situation.

Use this energy when asking him questions about what he wants you to do to him.  The most direct and easiest of questions would simply be:

“Do you like when I __(action)___  your ___(body party)____?”

(Ex.  This could be “suck your cock” or “ride your dick” or “lick your balls” etc)

With your gleaming devotion and genuine concern, asking these types of question with a willingness to perform eagerly is sexual dynamite.  This is especially useful when actually performing the sexual act itself.

For example, if you are giving him a blowjob, look him deep in the eyes and say “You like when I suck your cock Papi?” there is no possible way he could ever say or think “no”.  Make sure to ask this question with an “upward sloping” tonality (otherwise known as “seeking approval”…the more submissive way you would approach a boss with a question, rather than demanding an answer).  This, again, puts him in a position of power.

He gets a kick when I speak to him in Spanish during sex

Awesome.  The reason most guys love to hear a girl speak in another language during sex is because we have absolutely no idea what you are saying, but the passion and pleasure communicated through your native language is riving and sexy as hell.  Above all, for a man to watch a woman lose control and express her pleasure through her tonality like a sweet siren’s song, is extremely erotic.

Why?  Because we know inside that it is US that are causing you to lose control that way.  It’s a selfish male ego thing.  We are the master and are capable of pleasing you beyond measure (and, since he can’t understand your language, there’s no way to measure other than the energy you put off).  Go with that, but for your benefit, only pull it out when you want to give things an extra “kick”.  Don’t show all of your cards at once, all the time.  Holding this extra icing-on-the-cake back and only using it as your “secret weapon” most certainly gives you an ace up the sleeve.

I wanted to thank you again for your interest and your long emails.  It’s stuff like this that really keeps me going, knowing I can help.  So thank you

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

Now, at this point I had sent Gina one of my PDF products “Dirty Talk Power Phrases” that just went on sale as part of Dirty Dialogue’s new “Gold” Package upgrade.  More on that later.

Here’s her reply:

Wow hey. Its Gina.

Thank you so much for your time to respond so thoroughly like that. I didn’t expect you to be so detail focused and I can’t thank you enough! I am soooo excited to try out what you suggested and even use some of the phrases in the PDF you sent. I feel so happy. I’ve had the will this whole time I just needed the phrases. It was even fun to find out I had used some of the phrases before.

I tried sampling some in text messages to see how he would respond and INSTANTLY i got the reaction I’d hoped for!

He said “what’s gotten into you;)..” and proceeded to tell me how he wanted me to “exhaust him” and how he wanted to “enjoy me” and even told me what he wanted me to do more of and what he’s been wanting to try. Seriously it worked like a charm and I have a smile from ear-to-ear. I don’t even know you and I feel like I want to run up and hug you. THANK YOU.

THANKS SO MUCH. My boyfriend comes home for the holidays in two weeks and I’m so excited to spend these two weeks preparing for the biggest shock and best surprise of his life lol. If you give me more suggestions, you could help me prepare for these two weeks. If you’re up for it, it could be like an experiment. Teach me what you know, help me get ready, and I’ll tell you how it all goes in detail.

Thanks again,
With much enthusiasm and staying dirty,
Gina

Like I said, this girl is DEVOTED and I love every second of it.  Now, it looks like we may just hear more from Gina in the near future.  Stay Tuned!

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

PS.  I just launched a new web page for my ebook “Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad” that I believe is a WAY better reflection of what Dirty Dialogue is all about (and has gotten a MUCH better response).

Take a look for yourself:  DirtyDialogue.com/ebook

See you soon!

Today we’re gonna talk about the most short cut path to talking dirty to a guy whom you are intimate with.

Here’s the scoop:

Learning how to talk dirty to men often brings up the question of “what to say” when talking dirty.  Most women that don’t know what to say when talking dirty feel like they’re being put on the spot, which is no way to feel about sex at all.  In some cases, not knowing what to say when talking dirty can even put a screeching halt on the entire sexual experience, and things can get awkward – fast.

The secret to learning what to say when talking dirty to your man is found in your man himself.

What words and dirty talk phrases has HE used?  What dirty phrases is HE comfortable with?  Think of examples of dirty talk in your own sex life and start to see patters of what your man says, what he wants, and what he expects.  Its all right there for you to piece together and learn for yourself.

But his wants, needs and desires in dirty talk are only half of the equation.  YOU are the other half, and right now, that part is far more important.  You have to be comfortable talking dirty with the words and dirty phrases you say before you can even attempt to talk dirty to your man.  In terms of “what to say when talking dirty”, there needs to be a middle ground.

Here’s a 3 step process for revealing the right words to say when talking dirty to your man:

1)      Do your detective work and compile a list of words and dirty phrases you’ve either heard your man say, or you know for a fact he’s familiar with.  Write them down (without judging them) on a piece of paper.

2)      Once his list is done, compile a list of your own.  Write down all words and dirty phrases that have worked for you in the past as well as dirty words and phrases you are already comfortable with using in your dirty talk.  Again, do not judge your dirty words and phrases as you compile your list.

3)      Compare the two lists and find dirty words and phrases that are included in both and circle them.

Another way to do this dirty talk exercise is to use a Ven Diagram.  You can draw one yourself (click here for more info on Ven Diagrams).  Just follow these instructions and create your “Dirty Diagram” to cultivate your dirty talk words and phrases, giving you a solid foundation to start from.  You will find this method of learning how to talk dirty to your man will help you tremendously in discovering what to say when talking dirty.

Once you’ve cultivated your personalized dirty words and phrases, the next step is to use them to talk dirty to your man.  There are many ways you can use them in your dirty talk, and as you start talking dirty you will begin to realize what dirty talk phrases work best, and which ones don’t.  Either way, it’s better to use dirty talk words and phrases that both you and your man are already familiar with, instead of taking a shot in the dark and talking dirty on your own.

Real hot and steamy stuff today

As i’m sure you know…talking dirty on the PHONE is just as important as learning how to talk dirty in person.  And, it can be even MORE fun!

Talking dirty in person is one thing, but what about when you’re separated by distance?  He may be across town, across country, or even across seas – but one thing remains the same: all you have is your voice and your imagination!

Talking dirty on the phone is similar to learning how to talk dirty in person, but there are certain major differences that set the two a world apart.  Talking dirty on the phone is 100% reliant on your voice and words alone, as your appearance, touch, and physical energy are missing from the dirty talk you would have otherwise.

This means that your vocal tonality, pacing, and dirty talk phrases must compensate for this lack through igniting your man’s fantasy – replacing what’s physically unavailable with a mental projection of what is possible.  Fortunately, since a man’s fantasy can run itself and conjures up only his upmost sexual ideals, he will envision you as the fantasy girl of his dreams – so long as you can trigger his fantasy to do it right.

Here are a couple things to focus on when learning how to talk dirty on the phone to your man that will inspire the proper imagery in his fantasy mind:

1)  Set The Stage:

When starting to talk dirty on the phone, paint a mental picture of where you are and what you’re doing.  If you ask him what he’s doing right now, he will most likely respond with the same question.  You can reply with something like “Oh, I’m just laying around in my silky black nighty all by myself, thinking about you and how hot you make me…”

This type of descriptive dirty talk phrase triggers his mind to perceive what that scenario looks like.  Once the stage has been set in his fantasy, you can move on.

2)  Get the “Go”:

Talking dirty on the phone obviously leads to mutual masturbation.  But before you get all hot and heavy with your dirty talk, make sure to know if that is possible for the both of you to do at that moment.  Since you already asked what he was doing – right now – you will have an idea if masturbation is even possible on his end.  If its not, you might want to save your phone sex for another time.

If you DO “get the go” you can take your dirty talk to the next level.  Saying something like “Oh my god, I’ve been so horny all day I can’t stop touching myself!” in a coy, innocent manor will add to his fantasy (in which the stage is already set) by including you masturbating in whatever way his personal fantasy thinks is the hottest way possible.

3)  Do the Deed:

Once your dirty talk has now set the stage and gotten the green light, its time to get down to talking dirty on the phone and getting super sexual.  Your dirty talk thus far has given him a mental image that you now get to manipulate in his mind.  He’s thinking about you looking hot and masturbating, so now you’d ask “Do you like when I touch myself for you?” (or whatever way you’d like to say it, using any dirty words or dirty talk phrases you know)  in which case his answer will obviously be “yes.”  You can then follow up with “Good cause I’m doing it right now”.  Music to his ears.

If you’re doing the dirty deed, he will start as well.  Ask him if he’s touching himself, or just demand that he does.  This is where your real phone sex starts to escalate into something super hot and heavy for both of you.  You then start talking dirty to your man the way you would normally.  His masturbation replaces your touch, his fantasy replaces your presence, and your voice is in total control of it all.

Learning how to talk dirty to your man on the phone means understanding how your dirty talk affects him while the two of you are apart.  If you follow this three step method you will find it much easier to talk dirty on the phone as you would talking dirty in real life.  It’s just a matter of learning how to talk dirty to your man by manipulating his fantasy mind as the top priority of your dirty talk.

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

PS.  For a super-awesome collection of phone sex fantasy scripts, check out my new eBook “Dirty Dialogue:  A Good Girl’s Guide To Being Bad” and the ENTIRE BONUS devoted to getting your phone sex turbo charged hotter than you ever dreamed possible.  It’s pretty sweet ;-P

Lets get straight to it…

If you learn how to talk dirty with descriptive language you’ll learn how to talk dirty to your man the way he wants.  By talking dirty with descriptive language you can inject vivid sexual images in his mind instantly that both captivate his imagination, as well as force his attention to be on you.

And that’s exactly what he’s looking for.

Your man wants you to talk dirty to him because it triggers a mental movie in his mind which he can associate with the physical pleasure he’s receiving, be it from you or from masturbation.  Think of your dirty talk phrases as being little nuggets of fantasy gold that you get to drop in his mind.  Essentially, your dirty talk sparks a mental image that in turn sends a jolt of sexual energy up his spine – bringing him one step closer towards orgasm.

Dirty talk aside, descriptive language starts with adjectives.  Just as you would describe an every-day situation, you use adjectives to add imagery to the story you’re telling.

The more adjectives you use, the more descriptive the story becomes.

For example, consider the following story:

“I was walking down a road and saw a dog.”

Pretty boring right?

Now, let’s throw in a couple well placed adjectives:

“I was slowly walking down a dark road and saw a big dog”

Just by adding a couple adjectives you are given a clearer image of what exactly happened.  Let’s try this again with a couple more adjectives.

“I was slowly walking down a long, dark road and saw a big, shaggy dog”

Two more adjectives and you get the whole picture.

This happens because the adjectives complete the imagery in your mind for you, instead of leaving you guessing.  Adjectives trigger the imagination, and the more you use, the more vivid the imagery becomes.

Now, when talking dirty with adjectives, talk dirty with words that both you are comfortable with and that your man will interpret as sexual.  Learn how to talk dirty with adjectives (such as big, hard, hot, wet, tight, deeper, harder, faster, longer etc.) as well as verbs (such as suck, lick, eat, taste etc.) and also “action” verbs (such as throbbing, aching, pulsing etc)…well, you get the picture.

If you learn how to talk dirty with descriptive language you’ll come to bed prepared and have much more confidence with your dirty talk.  Not only will your man appreciate your dirty talk more when you learn how to talk dirty the way he wants, but you’ll have much more fun talking dirty to your man!

Los Angeles, California

Hey there…

Have you ever written a dirty letter to your man?  Maybe you’ve sent him sultry love-note or a spicy email…telling him about a fantasy you have or writing a white-hot story just to tickle his fancy.  Or maybe you’ve thought about it – even written a draft – but never had the guts to send it on over.

Whatever the case may be, a sexy letter can be just as affective as top-notch dirty talk…but with the benefit of being able to craft it at your leisure and deliver it at your own pace.

One of my readers  – a woman by the name of Suzy – sent me an example of dirty letters she writes, and with her permission, she’s allowed me to post it here as well as my response.  Enjoy!

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Message From Suzy:

Hey Sexy!

I had a hit dream about us last night. I dreamed that we worked together in an office somewhere and while you were faxing a document I walked up behind you and softly blew on the back of your neck, whispered in your ear that I wasn’t wearing any underwear under my skirt and invited you to meet me in the manager’s office after hours when everyone was gone.

You were the first one in the manager’s office and I walked up behind you, reached around your waist, grabbed your cock, begun rubbing your cock through your pants while kissing the back of your neck and telling you how badly I want you deep inside my moist tight pussy. I turn you around and plant a wet passionate kiss on those sexy lips while grabbing your ass and digging my nails in then begin working my way with my lips to your ear, neck and chest.

You start to unbutton your pants and I swat your hands away and say “No baby.. that’s my job” and continue to unbutton, sliding your pants down to below your knees blowing my hot breath all over your cock. I begin licking my way up your inner thighs until I reach the ultimate prize! I lick up the botton side of your shaft and take you in my mouth swirling my tongue around the head and lightly flickering the tip of your cock, then slide all of you in my mouth up and down, up and down until you are about to explode. You try to push my head away but I won;t let you. I want to taste you baby. Please cum in my mouth.

That is just a sample of some of the stuff I write. I don’t just write the stuff…when we are together I say it as well

What do you think?

-Suzy

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Devian’s Reply:

Well Suzy, I most certainly LOVE where your head is at. The ability to conceive and navigate a story like this is awesome, and you most certainly have it.

Now it’s time to sharpen the sword and hone your ability down.

The entire letter here tells a story about you having a dream and wanting to share it with him, which is a perfect outline for your dirty letter. However, even though you start off telling him it was a dream, the descriptive flow of your letter doesn’t have the “I had a dream” feel. It seems to turn into ‘you do this and I do that”, which is the right frame, but needs to be conveyed in the context of a fantasy dream sequence.

For example:

“I had a hit dream about us last night”

So you had a dream, but what about the dream was so magical to you? How did it affect you? You can elaborate here and build his intrigue before getting to the down and dirty guts of the story. This way, you can build his sexual tension before you even start telling him what happened. This letter intends to communicate your personal experience in a way that ultimately communicates your own pleasure in portraying him as the source of it all.

“You’ll never believe what I woke up to this morning. I’m actually sitting here trembling as I write this to you right now because I had to rush to my computer the second I got out of bed!

I had a dream about you last night that absolutely blew my mind… “

This type of introduction gets his visual mind working and in the proper mind-set he needs to have in order to fully induce his own fantasy while he reads the story. It’s like warming him up before getting his real juices flowing.

Notice how I said “You’ll never believe what I woke up to this morning” yet segued into the dream fantasy? This is called an open loop. You never fully explain it until the end saying something like:

“And when I woke up this morning, I was so wet I literally soaked my sheets right through. ;-P”

Now the open loop has been closed and it seems as the purpose of the story was to display the sexual affect dreaming about him had on you. This type of closure makes the story itself almost an afterthought, which makes his subconscious much more open to interpreting it any way he’d like.

Great stuff though, I really like what you’ve done!

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Suzy replied to me and thanked me for this advice, and as a seasoned dirty talking diva, she was really excited to take her game to the “next” level.

So what do you think?  If you have any input or feedback on this dirty letter (or the advice I gave) make sure to comment below on my blog.  I’d love to hear any sassy sentences o sizzling scenarios you may have to share!

Stay Dirty

Devian

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Hey there…got something awesome for you today

It’s a 3 step system for learning how to talk dirty to a guy!

Check it out…

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Learning how to talk dirty to your man can be an amazing adventure that the both of you share, but only if you learn how to talk dirty the right way, and with a solid foundation to start from. Most women that learn how to talk dirty without any sort of structure feel pressured to turn into a dirty talking porn star overnight, which fortunately is not necessary when you learn how to talk dirty with dirty dialogue.

Here are 3 easy steps to learn how to talk dirty with confidence, and in a way that your man will not only recognized instantly, but force him to appreciate you more and more.

1) Dirty Detective:

The first thing you must do when learning how to talk dirty is your research. Being a Dirty Detective means sleuthing around the internet looking for dirty talk examples and dirty talk phrases that you can relate to. Not every dirty talk example and dirty talk phrase will appeal to you, so feel free to judge them and either keep them or move on.

But your investigation does not stop online. Learning how to talk dirty to your man means uncovering his likes, his dislikes, and using your Dirty Detective skills to record information about your man’s personal and unique sex drive.

Start a Dirty Diary to take notes on things you find online as well as dirty talk secrets you reveal about your man. While being a dirty detective, you don’t have to talk dirty at all. Your main objective is to learn how to talk dirty in a way your man will respond positively, which means there is no rush for you to pull the trigger just yet.

2) Dirty Disciple:

The second thing you need to do is make a commitment to yourself to get good at talking dirty to your man. Make it a spiritual practice to take time out, once a day, and focus on this area of your life. Learning how to talk dirty to your man means challenging yourself to grow. Practicing your dirty talk while masturbating, to yourself in the mirror, or on your own private video camera (or all three at the same time) can really help yourself improve your dirty talk skill set for when its time to shine.

Commit to a 30-day challenge in which you promise yourself to practice once a day for 30 days and write entries in your Dirty Diary once a day. While this may seem like a grueling process at first, it will pay off big time in the long run. One day you’ll look back at your Dirty Diary and smile knowing how much you’ve improved your dirty talk and how far you’ve come along.

3) Dirty Diva:

The third step is to cultivate your inner Dirty Diva and bring her out into the open. Once you’ve spent time working on your internal Dirty Dialogue and feel comfortable with yourself, it will be time to bring your Dirty Diva out to play.

Most women report that this is where talking dirty really gets exciting for both her and her man. When ready, your Dirty Diva will act as an alter-ego that only comes out behind closed doors, in which case talking dirty to your man will please YOU as much as it pleases him.

If you learn how to talk dirty in this 3-step process, you are guaranteed to see real changes in your life with long term results. You can learn how to talk dirty this way as fast or as slow as you’d like, because ultimately, it’s your comfort level that is important when learning how to talk dirty to your man.

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Try it out!  And make sure to comment below and share your success stories to INSPIRE other women just like you

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

Talking dirty, like any other form of communication, is NOT a one-way street.  Especially when talking dirty to a guy.  If you throw a bunch of dirty talk phrases at him, without understanding the dialogue underneath, you are wasting your time and could very easily turn him off.  To avoid sounding stupid, and giving your man the wrong impression with your dirty talk, here are the 3 most important things you should know when learning how to talk dirty to a guy.

1) Intention: This is, by far, the most important thing to understand when talking dirty to a guy.  Your intention must be your own selfish sexual pleasure, which at first, may seem incredibly counter intuitive to most women.

But the facts don’t lie:  A man is genetically programmed to please a woman and bring her to orgasm.  His “inner caveman” wants desperately to impregnate you and replicate his genes, and since your orgasm makes it easier for his sperm to do their job, your pleasure is his biological goal.  This is a scientific fact that only works in your own benefit.  Your dirty talk must actually be an expression of your own pleasure, and a means of guiding him to please you properly.

Since men find purpose in accomplishment and achievement, your pleasure is his immediate sexual goal.  Give your man what he wants by completely indulging in your sexual experience with him.  His ego will go bonkers over his new found sense of sexual pride, and make your dirty talk something he will never forget.

2) Authenticity: When talking dirty to a guy, you must be completely authentic at all times.

Nothing is worse than a woman “faking” her pleasure.  If a woman fakes an orgasm, and her man finds out, he feels incredibly offended.  The reason being, a woman’s expression of pleasure, to him, is feedback of his ability to please.

If she fakes an orgasm, and he initially feels like “the man” in bed…only to find out it was a lie, it instantly communicates that he is NOT a good lover, and in fact, must suck in bed if she goes as far as “pretending” she’s enjoying herself.

Inauthentic dirty talk is no different.  If you are talking dirty for the sake of “trying to please” and saying things in a way that’s inauthentic, you will fail.  You can exaggerate, of course, but the root of your dirty talk must come from deep within your own sexual self.

3) Calibration: Your comfort zone is extremely important when talking dirty to a guy, and how you react to his dirty talk, sexual advances, etc.  But HIS comfort zone is just as important.

Every man is different.  Your man has different fantasies, fetishes, and expectations then the next guy.  Saying something one way to one guy may not necessarily work with another.  And most importantly, every guy has a different place where he “draws the line.”

If you start talking dirty to a guy by saying things he doesn’t expect – at all – it could shock him into a state of confusion.  The best type of dirty talk is when you know your man’s comfort zone and push just *slightly* beyond it each time, giving him something new to enjoy every time you talk dirty, and completely destroy any chance that he will freak out.

If you stick by these three things when talking dirty to your man, you will always be the one in control, whether he knows it or not.  Regardless, you will start a back-and-forth dialogue between you and your man, where sex is shamelessly on the table, and you form an unspoken bond of sexual exploration that will only draw the two of you together, 10-times closer than ever before.

The BEST way to utilize this information, is to learn how to talk dirty in a way that makes all of your sexual advances, expressions, and emphasis 100% HIS fault…which makes him feel even *more* like “the man” in bed.

I talk about this a lot in my newsletters and articles…and show examples of talking dirty in my infamous “Dirty Diary”…a collection of steamy sex stories about a woman forcing her man into breathless lust with words alone.  Women report that using the dirty talk tips, tricks, techniques and tactics stuffed in my newsletters have helped them learn how to talk dirty faster than they ever dreamed possible…

But don’t take my word for it.  Check it out and see for yourself!

http://www.dirtydialogue.com

So tell me…whats YOUR experience with this?  Have you ever said something “silly” because you thought he would like it, only to hear crickets chirping in the background?  I’d love to hear about your experiences with this stuff.  Leave me a comment below!  I really enjoy reading them.

(And if you’re worried about discretion, sign up with a nickname and delete your internet history afterwards.  No one had to know!)

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

PS.  Have you seen what other women are saying about my new book?  It’s seriously changing lives of women all across the world.  (I had woman from almost every continent so far pick it up and tell me how freakin’ easy talking dirty has become to them…quickly.)  You can read about that over at www.dirtydialogue.com/ebook.html

Talk soon!

Devian, here.

And today I introduce to you someone new here at Dirty Dialogue. This is someone I’ve know for a very long time and who is unbelievably in touch with her sexual self.

This is a girl who has dedicated her life to her sexuality unlike anyone else I know. She’s brilliant, and she’s now here for you.

She goes by the name “Bunny Bombshell” and has written and article for Dirty Dialogue…for the first time ever. When I read this submission, I knew instantly that she has everything it takes to explain “dirty talk” in a way that women will appropriate.

Strait forward…and brutally honest.

So without further ado…here is her stunning new article entitled,

Dirty Talk for the Timid Tongue

It’s Saturday night and you just got back to your boyfriend’s
apartment for the night, the two of you crawl into bed and start
fooling around… suddenly you feel something fluttering at your
tongue, you’re nervous, anxious, and suddenly you blurt out. “YOU
ARE SO GOOD AT SEX!”

At this moment you can almost imagine the crickets chirping, and
the sound of a record player scratching to a halt like in an old
movie. You’ll probably think to yourself…

“Did I really just say that?? You are so good at sex??? Is that
really the best thing I can come up with?? COME ON! Ugghhh!!!”

Don’t be embarrassed, you are NOT alone by any means at all. In
fact “talking dirty” has 2,980,000 hits on Google alone and is
searched far more than you think. Not to mention, dirty talking is
more widely excepted then it is taboo.

It’s not just for porn stars and phone sex operators… it can be a
riveting and zesty way to spike the temperature in any couples
bedroom. And truth be told, men are more receptive to it then they
let on.

So how do I learn how to talk dirty? Where do I start? Let’s just
go over some of the dirty talk basics.

Let’s say you bought a new skirt, it’s short, it’s sexy and it
makes you look hot in all the right ways. I don’t know about you,
but it would all go to shit if my boyfriend didn’t compliment me on
the skirt, or have the boys at the club stare me down. Believe it
or not…It’s the same way with guys and sex!!!

They are wondering if they are pleasing you as well as themselves
(particularly if you are not a screamer). They want to KNOW you are
close to Cumming. They want to feel like GOD KING ZEUS for Christ
sake. So… you want to make them really hot in the right spot?

Simple. Tell them. Yep. Tell them they are doing it right. If you
are not comfortable enough to say words as raunchy and explicit as
pussy, cock, or cum you can still keep it classy but let him know
you are feeling good. Here are some ladylike more timid examples…

1) Throw your head back, close your eyes and run your hands down
your body. (Men are very responsive to audio visual stimulation.)
And say, “Ohhh baby you’ve never given it to me like this before.”

The visual stimulation is important as well, bite the pillowcase,
grip the sheets, furrow your eyebrows if you’d like to. But don’t
fake it, although men can come across the dumber specie… they can
usually pick up on it instinctively.

2) If you’re not totally comfortable to play the smoldering
temptress card, you can play it a little more innocent…(even if
it’s not always true).

Bat your eyes, and look as innocent as possible, maybe even bite
your lip a little if you’re feeling ballsy (no pun intended) and
say. “I feel funny inside… ” Then whimper or moan a little “But it
feels so good, harder!”

Now if you feel comfortable enough let’s take it to the next level.
Forbidden words. Words that would make your parents blush. But they
work…oh yes… they work alright. Hahah! Alright so here we go.

I guess this is for those who aren’t so shy… but even if you have
never said them before the shock alone could arouse your man. I’ll
just rattle off some popular examples. Note these are usually used
for fucking, not lovemaking which is sweeter and softer.

“Oh baby you are making my pussy so fucking wet.”
“It’s turning me on sucking your cock.”
“You want me like I want you big boy?”
“Fuck that pussy!”

Or lean back suggestively on the bed and run your hands over your
naughty parts and say… something like…

“I want you… here…”
Or something as simple as. “Fuck me.” Will usually do the trick.

I know that’s a lot of information to take in so let’s review the
basics. Men like to hear how good they look, and how good they are
doing, how you are feeling and also they don’t mind hearing exactly
what you want. Don’t be afraid to say “harder,” or “a little
softer” what feels good for you.

You can get creative with your wording and chances are he might
join in as well. You can’t tell me if wouldn’t feel good to hear
your man say You are so tight,” or “Fuck baby, that feels good.”
Talking dirty is a confidence booster and a nifty way to spice your
sex life.

Have fun!

-Bunny Bombshell

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Wow, thanks Bunny!

She really knows here…stuff ;-P

Bunny has been a great influence in helping me learn about what women need to learn in order to REALLY turn a man on (and that means any man, not just one or two). She’s shared a lot of her own secrets with me that were definitely a big plus when putting together my new ebook…revealing her best stuff in total secrecy that she has never told anyone before.

And it’s all in there.  You can snatch up your copy when you’re ready!

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Stay Dirty,

Devian Day