Dirty talk examples?

Sure, why not

Today we reach into the Dirty Dialogue mailbag and pull out a couple of questions from our readers.  How much fun is THAT?!

Looks like some girls had questions about my good ol’ Dirty Diary…

Lets go over it, shall we?

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“I read the first Dirty Diary you sent!  It was good, but I don’t know if I got the message behind it.

I understand that she wanted to have sex that night and he didn’t know it was gonna happen and that she new what to say and do to get him in the mood and that she got him turned on enough to make it last until they both couldn’t do it anymore.

Was there more to it than that?”

-Ashley

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Well Ashley, You’re most certainly on the right track.

There is one key element that you missed.  This element is so subtle that its no surprise that it may have been overlooked.

But don’t worry, you’re not alone.  (The story was designed to leave you guessing).

The subtlety here is one that exposes a universal trait amongst men.  Its something that, no matter what kind of man he is or what he finds “physically” attractive, will hit him at his most primal core.

Now, if you notice the theme of this story, the boyfriend is the kind of guy who likes to be in control (as most men do).  He expected the same ol’ thing from his girlfriend.

(This is VERY common amongst couples in relationships…you know, slipping into routine patterns and falling into mundane expectations of each other.)(This also kills sexual attraction at a deep level.  Nothing routine is exciting.  Ever.  In fact, the “Spark” that we all try so desperately to keep alive is born of pure spontaneity and discovering new things.  Routine = boring = not sexy).

But this time, she broke the mold.

Not only did she “break” the mold, but she INSTIGATED something new an exciting (in herself of course) which he instantly picked up

on…before any words what so ever.

Notice how in the car she took control of the situation.  She OWNED the interaction.  And she did this by INSTIGATING the vibe and

taking things sexual quickly (hence grabbing his cock and whispering in his ear).

The result?  He felt enslaved by her primal feminine desires…which ignited his deep, lustful craving to ravage her as soon as humanly

possible.

Here’s the bottom line:  Instigating (i.e. Stepping up and taking control, without any fear of judgment, pain or embarrassment…the

subtlety in question) displays an undeniable surge of confidence that no man can resist.

This requires 2 things.

We call these “Inner” and “Outer” Game.

Inner Game consists of a solid core sexual confidence that exists outside of social conditioning (i.e. everything you’ve been told is

right or wrong your entire life…especially focusing on what you “should” and “shouldn’t” do sexually out of fear of judgment by

others).

Inner game comes from knowing exactly what it is you want, but its easier said then done.  Building up this core confidence is not an

overnight process.  Its all internal, and all takes time.

Outer Game, on the other hand, are the things you can do and say RIGHT AWAY to get the results you are looking for.  These are the

answers to the “What do I say?” questions I hear all the time.

Outer Game is actually a skill set you can learn and apply instantly.  But its by no means “good” enough by itself.

Using lines and tactics will give you short term results, but building that inner feminine core confidence is what really matters

in the long run.  This is done by using “Outer Game” tactics as training wheels to build comfort and confidence through repetitive

action.

Ok, next caller!

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“My man knows how to talk dirty to me and he’s great a phone sex. He asked me to participate and he wanted me to talk about sucking his penis.I have to admit that I was scared and plus I got stuck with the scenario.

I need your help because I’m not sure what to say and I don’t want to sound stupid because I think he’ll pick on me later about it. I do

have an imagination but I’m not sure what I should say in refers to sucking his penis, especially what to call it.  What should I say?”

-Wanda

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Hey Wanda, thanks for your question…believe it or not, this question is VERY important.

Its extremely common to be at a lack for words when talking dirty.

Especially if you are a bit intimidated by your mans obvious mastery of the “dirty talk” language.

But here’s the thing:  Every man is different.

You see, Wanda, you are actually in a great situation.  You’re man is already participating in dirty talk.  He’s the one instigating

it over the phone.

Imagine if he wasn’t?  Imagine if he said he wanted you to talk dirty to him WITHOUT starting it up himself?  That would be much

more intimidating, wouldn’t it?

Instead, he’s already given you all the clues you need to step up and say all the naughty things he’d like you to say.

This is important:  Since every man is different, every man wants to hear something different.

Men (just like women) have different triggers that set them off.

Some men would like you to call his penis a “cock” while others would want to hear you call it his “dick” or “shaft.”

Saying the wrong thing could be a serious turn off.

But lucky for you, he’s already told you!

What word does he use to refer to his penis?  What does he say to YOU?

Does he use the word Cock?  Dick? Shaft? Etc Ect?

Whatever word he uses to refer to his own penis is the exact word you must use when referring to his penis yourself.  Your man has stepped up and taken control of the interaction (as most men do) which makes it much easier for you to play along.

(As opposed to instigating it yourself as in the story above.  THAT is where the long road of practice and experience truly pays off on

your end.  However, getting to that point on your own is not an easy task.  That’s why I’m here to help you).

But for the time being, consider yourself a step ahead of the rest.

Mirror the language he uses and say it back to him.

Let him lead and play along.  That’s what he wants right now, and that’s all he expects.  Once you really start the “Dirty Dialogue” things will snowball into an even hotter, more intimate experience that will take your relationship to new heights.

As for “what to say” in reference to giving him a blowjob, simply provide a commentary for what you *want* to do to him, step by step.

Phone sex is all about painting a pleasing picture in your man’s mind for him to visualize while he’s masturbating.  The more detailed you

make it, the easier it will be for him to play the mental movie in his mind, letting his imagination do all the work for you.

Start off by saying “I want to” and start describing what it is you want to do as if you were actually doing it.  You can also ask him

“You like when I ___?” which will always get a positive response, especially if you already know that he likes it!

The same goes for “You want me to ___?” if you already know that he wants you to do it.  Its a win/win that can’t lose.

But what are you doing?  Are you licking? kissing? sucking?swallowing?  And if you are, what part are you doing it to?

His head?  His shaft?  The tip?  Be specific with what it is you are describing to him, he’ll go nuts lol that’s just the way men work

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Go get him girl!

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Wanda brings up an excellent point that I would like to share with you.

It’s one thing to look for “Dirty Talk Lines” or examples of talking dirty that other people have used and been successful with, but its

another thing to know exactly what it is your man wants to hear.

To REALLY get him going, you must know what words turn HIM on.

Flipping the right switches can turn him on faster then a light bulb.  Its up to you to discover what those switches are.

Fortunately, I have a really good friend who is working on an easy way to do this, right now.  This is a friend with 2 PhD’s and is a

full time sexuality coach who has changed the lives of thousands of people across the globe.

But more on that next time.  Right now its time for me to sign off.

But before I go, I would love to ask you something.  Think of the one person you feel could benefit the most out of what you learned

today and picture them in your mind.  This is the girl who you KNOW is on the same path as you are in developing your sexuality to the

upmost and fullest extent.

Got it?

Awesome.  Now, if you feel you DID learn something today, or that there is something THEY could learn from it, please share your comment
below and post this blog to your favorite social network site!

I’m sure she’d appreciate it

Thank you SO MUCH for spreading the word and sharing what we have going on here.  I hope you and her both enjoy this as much as I love to write it.

Stay Dirty,

Devian Day

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