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How To Write A Dirty Letter To Men
Posted by: | CommentsThursday, 6:40 PM
Los Angeles, California
Hey there…
Have you ever written a dirty letter to your man? Maybe you’ve sent him sultry love-note or a spicy email…telling him about a fantasy you have or writing a white-hot story just to tickle his fancy. Or maybe you’ve thought about it – even written a draft – but never had the guts to send it on over.
Whatever the case may be, a sexy letter can be just as affective as top-notch dirty talk…but with the benefit of being able to craft it at your leisure and deliver it at your own pace.
One of my readers – a woman by the name of Suzy – sent me an example of dirty letters she writes, and with her permission, she’s allowed me to post it here as well as my response. Enjoy!
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Message From Suzy:
Hey Sexy!
I had a hit dream about us last night. I dreamed that we worked together in an office somewhere and while you were faxing a document I walked up behind you and softly blew on the back of your neck, whispered in your ear that I wasn’t wearing any underwear under my skirt and invited you to meet me in the manager’s office after hours when everyone was gone.
You were the first one in the manager’s office and I walked up behind you, reached around your waist, grabbed your cock, begun rubbing your cock through your pants while kissing the back of your neck and telling you how badly I want you deep inside my moist tight pussy. I turn you around and plant a wet passionate kiss on those sexy lips while grabbing your ass and digging my nails in then begin working my way with my lips to your ear, neck and chest.
You start to unbutton your pants and I swat your hands away and say “No baby.. that’s my job” and continue to unbutton, sliding your pants down to below your knees blowing my hot breath all over your cock. I begin licking my way up your inner thighs until I reach the ultimate prize! I lick up the botton side of your shaft and take you in my mouth swirling my tongue around the head and lightly flickering the tip of your cock, then slide all of you in my mouth up and down, up and down until you are about to explode. You try to push my head away but I won;t let you. I want to taste you baby. Please cum in my mouth.
That is just a sample of some of the stuff I write. I don’t just write the stuff…when we are together I say it as well
What do you think?
-Suzy
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Devian’s Reply:
Well Suzy, I most certainly LOVE where your head is at. The ability to conceive and navigate a story like this is awesome, and you most certainly have it.
Now it’s time to sharpen the sword and hone your ability down.
The entire letter here tells a story about you having a dream and wanting to share it with him, which is a perfect outline for your dirty letter. However, even though you start off telling him it was a dream, the descriptive flow of your letter doesn’t have the “I had a dream” feel. It seems to turn into ‘you do this and I do that”, which is the right frame, but needs to be conveyed in the context of a fantasy dream sequence.
For example:
“I had a hit dream about us last night”
So you had a dream, but what about the dream was so magical to you? How did it affect you? You can elaborate here and build his intrigue before getting to the down and dirty guts of the story. This way, you can build his sexual tension before you even start telling him what happened. This letter intends to communicate your personal experience in a way that ultimately communicates your own pleasure in portraying him as the source of it all.
“You’ll never believe what I woke up to this morning. I’m actually sitting here trembling as I write this to you right now because I had to rush to my computer the second I got out of bed!
I had a dream about you last night that absolutely blew my mind… “
This type of introduction gets his visual mind working and in the proper mind-set he needs to have in order to fully induce his own fantasy while he reads the story. It’s like warming him up before getting his real juices flowing.
Notice how I said “You’ll never believe what I woke up to this morning” yet segued into the dream fantasy? This is called an open loop. You never fully explain it until the end saying something like:
“And when I woke up this morning, I was so wet I literally soaked my sheets right through. ;-P”
Now the open loop has been closed and it seems as the purpose of the story was to display the sexual affect dreaming about him had on you. This type of closure makes the story itself almost an afterthought, which makes his subconscious much more open to interpreting it any way he’d like.
Great stuff though, I really like what you’ve done!
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Suzy replied to me and thanked me for this advice, and as a seasoned dirty talking diva, she was really excited to take her game to the “next” level.
So what do you think? If you have any input or feedback on this dirty letter (or the advice I gave) make sure to comment below on my blog. I’d love to hear any sassy sentences o sizzling scenarios you may have to share!
Stay Dirty
Devian
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